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A Sexy New You

When I first met my husband, I couldn’t wait to see him again. Our dates left me breathless – that indescribable feeling that accompanies meeting Mr. Perfect, reveling in the escalating relationship and knowing we’d share the rest of our lives together.

Now that the honeymoon is long over and we’ve settled into a routine — kids, bills, jobs, and stress – it can be challenging to keep the passion burning. But with a little effort – and the right romance boosters – we’ve learned to check our responsibilities at the bedroom door and turn up the heat. Our secret? A little planning and more of creativity and fun.

Make a Date

When you were dating, you penciled your man into your Daytimer. Agree on a night, hire a babysitter, and choose a drop-dead gorgeous dress that will make his jaw hit the floor. Escape to a four-star restaurant or book a hotel room, and don’t rush the night’s activities – not if you want to experience the rush you used to enjoy.

Talk the Talk

Get away from home so you can spend time alone just talking – but not about the kids or the latest assignment from your boss from hell. Joke around, share your dreams and sexual fantasies and focus on what drew you to each other the first time around. Turn on the charm and flirt with reckless abandon, whispering sweet seductions in his ear. Top sex experts recommend doing this at least once a month (more is better!), so keep the babysitter on speed-dial.

Banish Bedroom Boredom

And it doesn’t always require batteries. Variety is the Spice of Wife. Add a new sexual pleasure-producing position, use a different room of the house, or take it outside. Lose the routine and turn blah to “aah! He won’t know what hit him.

Plan a Night In

Even if the kids are home, you can set up a sensual soiree in your bedroom. That’s why there’s a lock on the door! Send your hubby an email invitation and transform the bedroom into a libido-loosening love nest before he arrives home. Light some candles, sprinkle rose petals on the stairway so he can Hansel his way to your Gretel, and add a cupful to a perfectly warmed bubble bath for two. Keep dinner in the fridge. You’ll be ravenous later on!

Do Your Romance Research

Hot new books can teach you cool new romantic sex techniques, give you racy role-playing ideas and show you how to use your anatomy to your advantage.

Go on a Sexy Shopping Spree

Whether you wear a teddy, T-shirt or – heaven help you-flannel nightgown to bed, toss it in the hamper. It’s time for an extreme makeover that keeps his eyes lingering on your lingerie. Add a few props and toys, and don’t be afraid to experiment. Just say yes!

Plant a Few Ideas in His Head

After a mutually mind-blowing evening, start planning your next amorous adventure. Drop notes in his lunch bag. Paste a note on the bathroom mirror. Let him know his fate for the very next date!

Boost Your Sex Life

So often that couple reaches a lull in their relationship, based on the same stale routine and exhausted sex techniques. As a man, you have the power to take charge and change the way things are, with a little knowledge and confidence. It’s time to show her that you are the best she’s ever had, and the best she’ll ever have.

Leave Her a Message

Here’s a chance to get creative with leaving voicemails. Leaving your woman a voicemail is the perfect way to show your love and lust in a non-pressured way. If you know for a fact she’s too busy to answer her phone, take a few minutes to think about what you’re going to say. Otherwise, you better be ready if she doesn’t reply. Tell her what you want to do to her later on or perhaps that you were thinking of her and wanted to tell her how much you love her. It’s the thought that counts.

Following Up with a Call

If you’re still a single man and are still meeting women for the first time, it’s important to follow up with a phone call in the right manner. Call back too soon, and you come off as desperate, call back too late, and you may be out of luck. The 48-Hour Rule is a universal one that seems to work out fine for just about everybody. This gives her two days to forget about you, and just when she gets back into her routine, she’ll receive a surprise call from you and remember who you are, without feeling that you called too soon.

The V-Method

Here’s a good tip: Next time you’re having sex with your lover, and she’s on top straddling you, make a peace sign with your hand and keep the crease of the V on her clitoris, moving it up and down your shaft as she strokes up and down. This will provide extra stimulation for her, as well as for you.

Erotic Poetry and Letters

There was a time when poetry ruled the expression of love and lust. The power of words and language cannot be denied, and by sitting down and writing something tasteful for your lover, you’re utilizing the freedom to say what you want, how you want, with the option to erase and revise at your convenience. Compose the ultimate letter outlining your profound appreciation and sexual desires, and you’ll most likely receive a dynamic response.

Indirect Stimulation (Not Foreplay)

Indirect stimulation means stimulating parts of the vagina and clitoris that are less blatant and seem to hold no value for arousal. The fact is that the clitoris extends about an inch or so into the vagina at the top. Although not as sensitive as the bud of the clitoris, the connecting fibers that fuse to the vaginal walls can send more energy to the bud itself if they are stimulated in the right manner. Press, massage and rub parts of her genitals that you ordinarily wouldn’t touch, and move slowly and consistently, observing the results.

Doggy style: Slow and Short

When in doggy style position, a woman’s vagina contracts a bit, making for a closer cluster of her vagina’s nerve endings. Because of this, keeping your penetrative strokes short and slow can prove more stimulating that long and fast. The real sensation for her is upon entering and exiting the vagina, rather than deepness. Moreover, the slow rhythm stays on the nerves longer than a fast stroke, sure to have her moaning in ecstasy.

Tongue Skill

The tongue is one of the strongest in the human body, and one that is capable of over 1000 distinct shapes and movements. So, there’s a lot you can do with your tongue! Whether you’re kissing or stimulating her clitoris, the actions of your tongue can have a significant effect on how she feels. Rolling and wave-like rhythms can be a godsend for women, as well as slow, circular massages. The dart-in, dart-out method just doesn’t work for sex.

Don’t just continue doing the same things you always do; you’re sex life will grow uninteresting and stale, and maybe your relationship as well. Try and start anew!