Many people have experienced first-handedly the experience of becoming parents. This is one of the most powerful experiences that you can live through in life. However, you will have to sacrifice many things if you are to raise your children. And in many cases, many people report that their sex life has taken a (not literal) beating. But why should this be the case? And is there something you could do about it?
Well, the case is pretty straight-forward when it comes to reasons why couples that have kids have fewer sex encounters. They simply don’t have enough time for it. In most cases, they need to go to work too and they need to take care of their children when they get back home. Moreover, their energy levels will be sapped – especially if they are dealing with a baby. Babies tend to have erratic sleep patterns and they also tend to wake up during the night, crying for attention. Their parents need to keep going to work and taking care of everything else – but now they can’t even sleep properly. And it comes as no surprise that their sex drives tend to plummet.
Many couples report that they have a lot less sexual encounters from the moment they had a child. That being said – we’re not saying that your sex life needs to completely stop if you have a child – far from it. Most couples still get to have sex occasionally, even though they may be hard pressed for time and energy to do this.
The truth of the matter can be summarized in the following maxim: when there is a will, there is a way. Sadly, many people use the excuse of having children to not have sex because they don’t want to have sex in the first place. But if your sex drive is high prior to having a child, then there’s no big reason for it to plummet after having a child. So, it’s all up to you and your partner, in the end. You can have all the sex you want, despite the fact that you now have kids.
However, in some cases, privacy can be a real problem. By “privacy” we mean “the lack thereof”. Kids are very nosy and curious about everything. Just when you think that you and your partner are all alone and that your kid is sleeping – he or she may come into your room because of a bad dream he had. Try explaining what you’re doing to your kid, then – it’s never an easy task. So, you may have to work a bit harder in order to create a sense of privacy for you and your partner.
That being said, the core of the matter is that you don’t have to give up your vibrant and healthy sex life just because you have children. Having no time for anything because of tending to your kids can even make things exciting when you do finally get to have sex. So, you can even boost your sex life when having kids, in the end.