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Anal Sex Tips

When it comes to anal sex, there are some important things you need to know as it is not the type of activities you want to rush into.

In the absence of proper preparation, anal sex can be painful, risky and finally, it can be unpleasant. However, in the event that you have a better understanding of what your expectation is and you get yourself prepared properly, you can derive a lot of pleasure from anal sex. All things considered, a lot of people engage in anal sex.

Before you start getting the job done, below are some important ways to kick-start the game. Below are five things you need to do before you first have anal sex

  1. Do the talking

There should be mutual understanding and trust between you and your partner before you find your way into that narrow path. There are some things that are required which include patience, care, and gentleness so as to give birth to a pleasurable or at least not making it a terrible scenario, being the first time experience for the recipient. The fact remains that your first time experience may not be fun. For the first few times, it can be quite unpleasant. That’s why it’s so important to do it with someone who will treat you with care.

  1. Always lubricate

There is no point discussing comprehensively this: ensure that you make use of a lot of water-based lubricants even more than you think you need. Do not mistake the anus for the vagina this is because the anus does not self-lubricate. That’s why you need to give yourself a lot of moisture. The role performed by the lubricant is that it will not only help you avoid discomfort but it will also increase sexual pleasure and satisfaction.

  1. Use protection. This is very important!

One the sexual activities which have been found to be the riskiest is anal sex, this is due to the fact that the anus does not self-lubricate like the vagina. This is an indication and a sign of warning that during sex the anus is prone to tear which can result in bleeding.

Whenever you are exchanging body fluids or blood, you will become at risk of becoming infected with HIV and other STIs. Always use protection when you have anal sex, either as a straight or gay couple and even if you use a sex toy instead of a penis. Care must be taken as you must not allow your partner to ejaculate into your anus and also do not allow them to replicate it to you as well.

  1. Relax

Anal sex can be pleasurable if you calm down and do it slowly and with a lot of lubricants. Put yourself in the mood by allowing your partner to make use of their fingers first or they can use their tongue but make sure you are protected or a small sex toy.

It should be noted that at the beginning it will feel like something strange in your butt. Even the first few times may seem strange. However, as you relax and get used to the feel, you can suddenly feel a new kind of pleasure that adds a new element to your sex life.

It is important to take note that at this point, your partner should only insert the tip of their tongue, finger, penis or sex toys. In this way, you will get used to the sensation without the feeling of discomfort. Additionally, going ‘all the way in’ too soon will probably make you feel like you need to go to the toilet – not the sexiest sensation!

  1. Do not cross-contaminate

One of the easiest ways to get urinary tract infection is to spread the germs from the anus into the vagina. Make sure that all toys or body parts which are inserted into the anus properly cleaned prior to insertion into the vagina. Always rinse well with clean water (and mild soap if necessary) before and after anal sex, and never mix anal sex with vaginal or oral sex.

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Dealing With Addiction To Porn

Watching porn is one of the most popular sexual activities for many people. It’s simply a way to get intimate with yourself by watching other people do it. We have powerful neurons in our body that are designed to fire in unison with those of other people- and this is why watching porn can make us feel like we’re having sex ourselves. That being said – watching porn has its bad side. It’s so good that it can get very bad. Namely, many people are getting addicted to watching porn – and many of them aren’t even aware of it.

The first thing that you would need to do is admit to yourself that you’re addicted to porn. This is not something that you should be ashamed of to admit – it can literally happen to anyone. And the way to know whether you’re addicted to porn is pretty straightforward. If you have come to reach a level when watching people have sex is much more pleasurable for you than having sex yourself – then this is a red flag. If you watch porn every day for multiple hours per day – then this too is a red flag.

Next, it’s time to talk with your closest friends and family. Beware of the people that you will put in this circle (this is a subject for another article). If you’re not careful, then information about the fact that you’re addicted to porn may see the light of day and many people may get to know this. As we all know, not all people are benevolent towards others – some may try to make fun of you. If you have high mental fortitude then this won’t be a problem for you – but we believe that we speak for most people when we say that it can be rather embarrassing if everyone knows that you’re addicted to porn.

The point of talking to your closest friends is that they will have some advice to give to you. You will also get to frame your addiction in your own words and give it structure. It won’t be chaotic any longer. The more you know about yourself and the more you turn the things you feel into a structure – the better off you will be prepared to master yourself.

If you believe that things have gotten way out of hand – then we suggest that you consult with a professional. Addiction to porn – while not life-threatening – can still be a serious thing that hinders your progress and growth in life. And this is why it’s recommended that you handle this sexual problem as soon as possible.

That being said, it’s also important not to over diagnose yourself. If you enjoy watching porn sporadically – then, by all means, knock yourself out (no pun intended). Porn can even teach you some things about new sex positions and ways in which you can make sex more pleasurable for yourself and your sexual partner. It’s only when things get out of hand that you need to start taking it seriously and start fixing your porn addiction problem.

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Sex & Relationship

The best way a sexual relationship can bring positive result is when both parties have a better understanding of what exactly they want. In the event that you fail to tell your partner what you want, you will later discover that what you expect is entirely different things. One of you may be looking for an adventure, and what the other party seeks is nothing but marriage.

A lot of individuals find it very difficult to differentiate between love, dedication, and sex, or suppose the three are always together. There are different ways to show love, and sex is not part of them as it is not when you have sex that you show your partner that you love them. Sexual relationship with someone does not necessarily indicate that you are in love with them. But sex is important in a relationship unless both parties are not into it at all.

Sex in a determined relationship can make people closer and strengthen their love. Having sex in unsettled relationships can also be fun and encourage people to feel better friends. Whether you have one night or a wedding for fifty years, it is very important that you like, respect and has trust in your partner and that you feel liked, respected and believe in him or her.

Types of Relationships

When venturing into a new relationship and through a relationship (often due to the expected change over time!) Discuss whether you want a relationship that is:

Committed or non-committed: This has to do with whether you want a committed relationship such as a marriage, long-term relationship, child upbringing, sharing finance and/or sharing a home or what you want is a less committed relationship? Friend with benefit is quite common now, you know what kind of benefit it is. The busy work life are affecting people’s relationship, they tend not to go into serious long term relationship but just meet up for sex.

Friendly or Romantic: This involves taking a decision on maybe what you want is a relationship based on friendship or do you prefer a romantic and intimate relationship?

Sexual or non-sexual: Do you expect to have sex with that person? If this is what you want, are there any sexual activities you want to do and others do not want?

Monogamous or non-monogamous: Do you want your relationship to be with that person alone, so that only the two of you have sex with each other, or not so that you and your partner will have sexual intercourse with other people?

Do not forget to check each of these questions separately. All combinations are possible!

Common Relationship Structures

Asexual or non-sexual: Asexual people generally have no sexual feelings and/or choose not to have sexual intercourse. Individuals that are identified as asexual may want emotional relationships, including long-term committed, loving, non sexual partner. Other people do have sexual feelings, but do not want or are not ready to have sexual relations with other people. So, these categories of people are completely or selectively abstinent. Most of them are women, as some of them don’t even experience orgasm before.

Lifetime mutual monogamy: In this type of relationship, every person has only one sex partner in life. Both partners do not have sex with another person; they only have sex with each other.

Mutual Serial Monogamy: This is a relational structure which is common in many adults. When a person is seriously monogamous, they engage in sexual activities with more than one person in their life, but they only maintain a long-term sexual partner, where both partners are monogamous, they only have sex with each other.

Mutual fidelity: This is similar to mutual monogamy, except that there may be more than two people involved in this type of relationship. Groups or families of three, four or more may have sex with others, but do not have sex with people outside the group.

Sexually non-monogamous relationships: Non-monogamous sexual relationships include consensual/honest non-monogamy for example “casual dating,” swinging, polyamory, and open relationships, as well as non-consensual/dishonest non-monogamy, which is also referred to as cheating. There is a wide variety of non-monogamous sexual relationships structures that people can choose in which one or more members of a couple of groups have sexual relations with others.

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